Monday, April 20, 2009

"FIRST DAY OF SCHOOL"

Parenting is open-ended poetry.

Lucidity leads one to realize that parenting a child is also a way for revealing how flawed we are.

Well-intentioned (intentions!) parenting will not automatically lead to successful parenting. Like poetry, so much depends on how the parentee will read us.

[EDITED DUE TO VARIOUS PEEPS' REACTIONS...]

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Hypervigilance -- many newly-adopted children have this. One example is a worry that making a mistake means being returned to the orphanage. This is why post traumatic stress is not alien terminology in the world of orphans/adoptees who are often victims of neglect/abuse.

Among poet-parent-friends' advice for my new parental status, Mei-mei noted, One can never praise a child too much. Her suggestion bears a higher significance/resonance for many adopted children.

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